Dear Friends on Rediff,

I have been missing from this site since two months.. I lost my father about whom I had written a letter on this blog ,if you all remember,

Hope we will get back at communicating with each other and exchanging ideas and thoughts.

NEED WASHING??    A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We all stood there under the awning and just inside the door of the Target.  We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day. I am always mesmerized by rainfall. I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world. Memories of running, splashing so carefree as a child came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.  The little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in 'Mom let's run through the rain,' she said.  'What?' Mom asked.  'Lets run through the rain!' She repeated.  'No, honey. We'll wait until it slows down a bit,' Mom replied.  This young child waited about another minute and repeated: 'Mom, let's run through the rain,'  'We'll get soaked if we do,' Mom said.  'No, we won't, Mom. That's not what you said this morning,' the young girl said as she tugged at her Mom's arm.  This morning? When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?  'Don't you remember? When you were talking to Daddy about his cancer, you said, 'If God can get us through this, he can get us through anything!'  The entire crowd stopped dead silent. I swear you couldn't hear anything but the rain. We all stood silently. No one came or left in the next few minutes.  Mom paused and thought for a moment about what she would say. Now some would laugh it off and scold her for being silly. Some might even ignore what was said. But this was a moment of affirmation in a young child's life. A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.  'Honey, you are absolutely right. Let's run through the rain. If GOD let's us get wet, well maybe we just needed washing,' Mom said.  Then off they ran. We all stood watching, smiling and laughing as they darted past the cars and yes, through the puddles. They held their shopping bags over their heads just in case. They got soaked. But they were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars.  And yes, I did. I ran. I got wet. I needed washing.  Circumstances or people can take away your material possessions, they can take away your money, and they can take away your health. But no one can ever take away your precious memories...So, don't forget to make time and take the opportunities to make memories everyday. To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.  I HOPE YOU STILL TAKE THE TIME TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN.  They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them. Send this to the people you'll never forget and remember to also send it to the person who sent it to you. It's a short message to let them know that you'll never forget them.  If you don't send it to anyone, it means you're in a hurry.  Take the time to live!!!  Keep in touch with your friends and family, you never know when you'll need each other -- and don't forget to run in the rain!

WHY MEN ARE NEVER DEPRESSED:


Men Are Just Happier People--
Your last name stays put.
The garage is all yours.
Wedding plans take care of themselves. Chocolate is just another snack.  
You can never be pregnant.
Car mechanics tell you the truth.
The world is your urinal.
You never have to drive to another petrol station restroom because this one is just too icky.
You don't have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a bolt.
Same work, more pay.
Wrinkles add character.
People never stare at your chest when you're talking to them.
New shoes don't cut, blister, or mangle your feet.
One mood all the time.

Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
You know stuff about tanks and engines. A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.
You can open all your own jars.
You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.


Your underwear is £8.95 for a three-pack. Three pairs of shoes are more than enough. You never have strap problems in public.
You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes.
Everything on your face stays its original colour.
The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.
You only have to shave your face and neck.

You can play with toys all your life.
One wallet and one pair of shoes -- one colour for all seasons.
You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.
You can "do" your nails with a pocket knife.
You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.

You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25 minutes.

No wonder men are happier.

This is how

You are what you eat, so eat well. A stupendous insight of civilizations past has now been confirmed by today's investigative, nutritional sciences.

They have shown that what was once called 'The Doctrine of Signatures' was astoundingly correct. It now contends that every whole food has a pattern that resembles a body organ or physiological function and that this pattern acts as a signal or sign as to the benefit the food provides the eater. Here is just a short list of examples of Whole Food Signatures.

A sliced Carrot looks like the human eye. The pupil, iris and radiating lines look just like the human eye...and YES science now shows that carrots greatly enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes.

A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart is red and has four chambers. All of the research shows tomatoes are indeed pure heart and blood food.

Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the heart. Each grape looks like a blood cell and all of the research today shows that grapes are also profound heart and blood vitalizing food.

Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds are on the nut just like the neo-cortex. We now know that walnuts help develop over 3 dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function.

Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys.

Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb and more look just like bones. These foods specifically target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium. If you don't have enough sodium in your diet the body pulls it from the bones, making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body.

Avocados and Pears target the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female - they look just like these organs. Today's research shows that when a woman eats 1 avocado a week, it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight and prevents cervical cancers. And how profound is this? ... it takes exactly 9 months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit. There are over 14,000 photolytic chemical constituents of nutrition in each one of these foods (modern science has only studied and named about 141 of them.

Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the motility of male sperm and increase the numbers of sperm as well to overcome male sterility.


Sweet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the glycemic index of diabetics.

Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries.

Grapefruits, Oranges, and other Citrus fruits look just like the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts.

Onions look like body cells. Today's research shows that onions help clear waste materials from all of the body cells They even produce tears which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes.


Bananas, Cucumber, Zucchini and more target the size and strength of the male sexual organ. It's true!

Peanuts have a profound effect on the testicles and sexual libido. Peanuts were banned as a food for males by the church often during the middle ages. Most people don't realize that argentine, the main component of Viagra, comes from peanuts.

Friends,

I had been unwell over 2 months. Hence no touch with you guys.. I am trying to get back to writing ..

Hope you all are doing great...

TAke care

Anita

Its all about Love.

Kabir was no scholar, yet he expressed the very essence of life."Love's not grown in gardens,Love's not sold at market.He who wants it,king or commoner,gives his head and takes it,
There is only one way to obtain love, the man who wants love gives his head . He will have to sacrifice his ego,his pretence,his false show. That is what kabir means by "head". There are two diemnsions to this.One aspect is that your ego-that is contained in the head-must disapper.Love means the transformation of the centre.An egoist considers himself to be the centre .He says" I must be saved even at the cost of the whole world".The ego is aggressive , so when the egoist shows his love for someonehe destroys him;he tries to destroy the other 's individuality .IN this kind of false love countless people have lost their individuality .

The second meaning is , losing your thoughts .Your mind is nothing but a vast collection of thoughts . Your mind is nothing but a vast crowdindeed.Because of it your whole energy is wasted and you have no energy left for love . The head is an exploiter .It drains you to such an extent that the flow of energy is unable to reach your heart . And 99 percent of your thoughts are useless, they have no substance.

When you are sitting quietly , do you ever observe your thoughts? Have you ever wattched the rubbish that goes on in your mind ?What do you hope to achieve by permitting  all this rubbish? It goes on, day and night, in your waking hours and in your dreams. Even the most trivial thought consumes ehergy.

Scientist conclude that the amount of energy you would expend in one hour digging a pit is the same as the amount you expend in 15 minutes of thinking and worrying . So mental activity requires four times more mnergy that physical activity.
These days , man's physical activty has decreased,but his mnetal activity has increased . The head has become an exploiter it does not allow energy to flow anywhere else .The head consumes all the enrgy . The heart is not aggressive.It waits.

Kabir says,many people spend thier lives reading . They read countless books and scriptures and finally they die,but they do not attain wisdom Wisdom has no relation to information. As you keep on reading and listening and accumlating facts your meomory becomes very full,and you will know much without really knowing anything,

According to Kabir, a man of letters is a scholar who has only read about love. The hindi word for love is prem and is made up of two and a half letters. Kabir says to read theses two and a half letters in a book is meaningless.Only when a person falls in love with someone do the two and a half leteers"PREM" become complete .ONe letter is for the lover, and the half is for the beloved and the half is for something unknown that exists between thre two.

No matter how hard you try, love never becomes complete.You are never content..It is also an indication that it is everlasting .Remember , what so ever attains to completion , dies. To remain incomplete is love's nature. So a lover is never satisfied and therefore his joy is endless.

Leadership and Real Change 

One of the most frustrating things about change is that no-one can see the
benefits as quickly as you can, as leaders. Why is that? Why are people so
stupid, defensive and traditional. Why can't they be more like you? You've
done all the hard work. You've looked at the strategy, weighed up the pros
and cons. You've even carried out a cost-benefit analysis to prove that
it's worth it. Yet still they won't change.

Well there are some very good reasons. The first would be because you, as
instigators of change are in a pretty good position. It's your change. You
own it and have bought into it. It really means something for you.

Also, you really are ahead of the game. In terms of the Coping Cycle you've
gone past the denial, defence and discarding stages. Your self-esteem and
performance may have been on the floor a few weeks ago, but now - hey -
you're all for it. Of course you are but your team aren't there yet.

They'll be at various stages of the cycle. There'll be some with you and
there'll be others in the 'why?', 'you are joking?', 'change again?'
stages. These people need to be helped through this cycle and supported as
their self-esteem dips, their performance hits rock bottom.
You know what this is like.

Remember that new computer system we had installed. They said it was the
best, state of the art, superb, blah, blah. A week later you couldn't even
send an email - it had all changed. God how you hated it. How you wished
you could have your new system back. However, as time went by and you
learnt to use it properly it was 'so much better than the previous system',
and even 'I don't know why we didn't introduce this years ago?'. So, that's
another good reason.

There's also a really interesting model that explains this in a different
way. It's a very simple formula for change. It says that to overcome
resistance to change you need a Vision, an idea of the first steps and
enough dissatisfaction with the current situation to make it happen.
Dissatisfaction x Vision x First Steps > Resistance

The Vision is usually the easiest. Well, it's all relative. However, if you
haven't got something to aim for then why on earth are you carrying out
this change process. Unfortunately people who have the vision are not
always the best at communicating that vision to others. If this is
something you, as a leader, struggle with then perhaps getting others
involved at this stage would help.
These could be people at all levels who are committed to the change. Choose
the cynics in the Organisation as well as the starts. Cynics frequently
have great networks and once they are won over the task gets a lot easier.
Invest time and effort into these 'change champions' ( not my favourite
word either), and communicate, communicate, communicate. Use every medium
you can think of - people are different. They pay attention to different
things - you know that.

The first steps can prove tricky. If people are sold the vision properly
and the benefits explained it's a great start. People, already under threat
from this change process want to know what's going to happen and when.
There's nothing wrong with that. The problem however is that life isn't
that simple. If it's a large change programme that will take months, years
- then there's probably no-one in the Organisation that knows every step of
the process. Yet, people expect you to. They expect that you'll know what
will happen to their part of the office on April 24th 2007. It's not
logical. It's not reasonable but there it is. What is logical and
reasonable is that you'll know with some certainty what the first steps
will be. You have to let people know what you know, and also what you don't
know.

A useful analogy to help with this is to think of the change as a journey
across the sea. Your Organisation is the boat and the vision is somewhere
out there. The vision is fairly clear. OK it may change slightly but it
should have been defined clearly so you at least know where you're heading.
The journey is not entirely under your control. There are numerous factors
that will affect your route.
In nautical terms; wind, tide, expertise of crew, condition of boat, etc.
In business terms; finance, resource, expertise of crew, condition of
Organisation, etc.

The only reasonable expectation would be to chart out the first few weeks,
stages of the project. If you try to do anything more than this inevitably
it will fail and you would have failed to meet peoples' expectations. Then
you'll have the whole 'told you it wouldn't work' scenario to deal with.
Don't set yourself up to fail.

The difficult part (which doesn't seem to occur in other models) is the
element of dissatisfaction. For this process to kick off the
dissatisfaction needs be real and significant before any change happens.
It's generally not until this dissatisfaction reaches epic proportions that
you'll do anything. This applies to change in all areas of life, not only
the business world.

For instance I'm 47 years old. I used to play rugby and football but that
was a while ago now and .Well let's just say I like a drink, good food and
I could do with losing a few pounds. Really I should start going to the gym
and eating healthier (my first steps). I would quite like to see my
daughter grow up and have grandchildren and live a good few more years yet
(my vision). So why on earth aren't I doing the right things now?
It make total sense, logically for me to eat healthier, take more exercise
yet I haven't done it. I guess my dissatisfaction level isn't sufficiently
high yet. If I started having some heart murmurs, or had a friend of a
similar age in hospital that may well do the trick.

I'm not suggesting for one minute that you go out and make your staff
miserable with the current situation. That would certainly raise their
dissatisfaction level but they may well decide to leave instead of change.
No, what I'd suggest is that you talk to people and raise their level of
awareness. One consequence of being stuck in 'denial' is that you won't see
what's going on around you. Something obviously needs to change - hence
change initiative. People need to address that problem. Once they do and
accept there is a problem their resistance should be significantly lowered.
This takes time. People need to be communicated with and their fears
addressed. Change is scary. But it's a lot easier when you've people with
you to move the change. You can't do it alone.

written by By Byron Kalies